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Are you thinking about Change?
Posted on February 5th, 2009 No commentsThe healing experience will no doubt be the subject for multiple blog entries (for years to come), but what I know truly is that change only lasts once it has arrived and been “ingrained” in the physical body (literally has become a part of our cells). I believe health is a “top down” access. This follows a step down of integration that starts with a our spiritual health, progresses to the mental map that orients our experience of the egoic self, passes through our emotional expression, and finally ends up as the building blocks of the specific body we develop (and yes we continue to physically develop from “in utero” to the point of death).
I will leave the “spirit” conversation for now as that may not afford you the tangible reality that the healing process is a true representation of. For most Americans, healing starts first in the mind.
The desire to change can be motivated for a variety of reasons. Perhaps the pain is too much, the body ache is overwhelming, the tiredness is simply not motivating, or the experience of who you are in the world is not a true representation of who you want to be or how you want to be known. These mismatches in our mental understanding of self point to the need for change. The trouble is actually a motivating force for action; and a “negative” emotion, actually is “energy-in-motion” causing us to feel the real impact of our incomplete self. This is not a bad thing … otherwise, how will anything change?
After a time, most everyone comes to realize that the communications they are receiving, whether from their body (strongest motivating force: pain), from their mind (strongest motivating force: frustration or displeasure with how life is, the thought, that something is not right here), from their relationships (I don’t have the love, trust, or friendships that I want), from their work (unfulfilled, angry, disconnected from who they are and what they do), from … well, pick your situation. The motivating force for change is different for each individual and must be personally addressed, realized, and (if warranted) translated into action.
Some people are more action oriented than others. Some recognize the value in needing to do something about their situation, others just don’t know that they can do something about it. Perhaps blame is placed on another, on work, on money, on life, on God, what have you… In my opinion any comparison to another (look at John, he’s so much more motivated than I am) or judgment of self/other (I’m not good enough) is simply a waste of time and energy.
Although I must add, even though I know this through and through in my being, it doesn’t change the fact that at times these simple judgments and comparisons happen to me too. Just because your mind wants a “pity-party” doesn’t mean you are a bad person. It’s best to find someone willing to listen to your thoughts and not feed them. The sooner you find a compassionate and loving listener who can see through the B.S. to the light in you, the better!
To support any change, no matter how difficult, the first and most empowering stance to take, regardless of the situation, is to look to see how am I responsible for its presence in my life? (See Ho’oponopono blog post for a Hawaiian healing practice that works with this basic premise.) Most people understand the old adage: that the definition of crazy is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. Ideally, you will understand (when the time is right or you are simply sick of the results) that it is time to get into action.
Our mind is the most powerful motivating force on the planet (and on the flipside, it can also be the most powerful delaying, procrastinating, arguing, and discounting force) … so be aware of what you think and pay special attention to what is motivating your change in perspective. Where do your thoughts go? What do you feel as they arrive? Which ones repeat, argue with you, or wake you up at night?
Here is where that compassionate and loving individual can support you in overcoming the seemingly insurmountable hurdle of our own ingrained mental habits and attitudes. Be it a family member, friend, or most empowering a holistic health coach (therapist, mentor, teacher, spiritual guru), i.e. a loving individual that sees all you are and holds powerfully your capability of changing whatever you want … simply because it is your life!
Bottom line, if you are thinking about change, don’t keep it to yourself. Seek out support. Get a listening ear and share what you want. Take action by translating thoughts into words and you will feel what the best next step is for you. And if it isn’t clear, a proper support system will help to offer suggestions and guidance that empowers forward momentum so you can have all that you desire.
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Integration Does a Spirit Good
Posted on April 19th, 2007 No commentsHello everyone. This is the first launch of my blog. This will be an interesting exploration of thoughts, feelings, insights, and full self-expression around my business, philosophy, and growth process. This blog post is about integration.
A word of caution: I will use we as a designation for human beings as the masses — this may not apply specifically to you as an individual — I only ask that you try it on like a jacket and if it does not fit or support you in expanding your vision, than take it off, return it and ask for a refund. Back to my belief(s) are integration…
We need time to integrate. The difference between spiritual growth and body-mind-emotional growth simply is time. Our spirit may “get it” and frankly we may even “understand it,” but it takes time and (sometimes) practice to integrate and “have it” in our bodies, minds (as in a thought that is accessible, remembered, and referenced), emotions (a whole topic in and of itself), and ultimately in our actions and relationships out in the world. Integration is necessary and possibly the most important aspect of growth, healing, and the nebulous term — Transformation.
We are not fully “transformed” until we have integrated the new information: a form of digestion, embodying, and release the “waste” — that which is unnecessary, superfluous, and unimportant to us personally. Integration is establishing our perspective, our thoughts around it, and the ways and means we are going to act out this in the world.
As may be obvious, I have alot of ideas that as yet may not be completely fleshed out or even understandable to the average human. I look forward to expanding on integration and the other aspects of the tremendous amount of amazing information and growth that has occurred for me in my years in the holistic healing field.
I also look forward to offering some of my own personal philosophy and intentions that are behind my coaching and bodywork practice.
Feel free to offer comments and feedback on my posts as they will support me in clarifying my ideas and making sure that which I express is relevant, supportive to the amazing expansion that is occurring on this planet, and generally of worth and value to you the reader.
Thank you for dropping by and I look forward to being of service to your growth, to encourage an opening of your mind, and to generally blow the top off any box that you may have adopted as your home.
Have fun, play, and recognize my ideas are may not be your own: as I was reminded recently on an audio CD for a workshop hosted by Joe Vitale of The Secret: Meditation is NOT what you think!
An excellent reminder for all that I do. I’d like to believe that life is not what I think, however, alas, a blog would then be completely irrelevant, eh?
James Yunker
Massage Therapist, LMT #11213
Holistic Health Coach
CranioSacral Therapist
Bodywork Instructor